Monday, June 18, 2018

Checking "Shed" Off The To-Do List

If you follow my blog, you may remember that Adam built a shed in our backyard back when I was pregnant.  He literally built it from scratch.  I know how lucky I am that anything wood-related I could ever want, Adam could build me.

Adam was the one who wanted to build a shed.  At first, I was a bit worried it would take up too much space in our backyard and I had visions of a rusty old shed in our cute backyard.  Adam talked me into, pointing out that we could move a bunch of stuff from our cluttered garage into the shed.  And he promised it would be a cute.  Once he told me he planned to put some windows in the shed, my one request was that it have some window boxes so I could plant some pretty flowers.

As all Adam's projects turn out, the shed was way better than I ever could have imagined.  It's pretty darn adorable.  It helped that Adam thought to include lots of thoughtful details.  He painted the shed door the same color as our front door.  He included some dentil moulding above the windows that we also have on our house.  He even made miniature cedar shutters like the ones he made for our home.  What's not to love?

This weekend he put the cherry on top of the cake- he installed some cedar window boxes! 


They really do finish off the shed and add so much charm.  He mimicked some of the details from the shutters and they turned out beautifully.  He built them out of cedar wood so they would hold up to the elements.  To further help them withstand the weather, he added a coat of General Finishes Exterior 450 varnish with just a touch of stain to add a little depth.  


Once the varnish was dry, he screwed them into the studs inside the shed and drilled a few holes in the bottom to help with water drainage.  We added a layer of river rock to keep the wet soil off the wood and allow for proper drainage.  Then we added potting soil, which is lighter than plain old dirt.  Next came the fun part- adding flowers!   

We took Archer and Lyla to a local nursery to pick out some flowers.  On the two front window boxes, we selected Hawaiian Blue Eyes, Tropical Sunrise Superbells, and Lobularias.  For the window box on the side of the shed, we picked out Violet Torenias and Rieger Begnonias.  We went with the Hawaiian Blue Eyes and Lobularias because they are trailing plants and should grow down over the sides of the boxes.  All the flowers should get bigger and more lush and really fill out the window boxes as summer progresses. 


Our sweet neighbor didn't waste any time telling us how nice the window boxes look from their deck.  You can also see the side of the shed from our front yard.  I love how they finish off the shed.  


I realized I never gave you a tour of the inside of the shed.  We don't have any grand organizational systems in place, but it is neat, tidy and easy to find things inside.  The inside is deceivingly spacious.  We managed to fit all of our lawn and garden equipment, including our lawn mower and two giant wheelbarrows.  Adam also included a little tabletop with shelves that have come in handy when planting flowers.  There's even space for my bike, which I might actually ride one of these days.  There's plenty of room for more stuff, but we're not in any hurry to clutter it up.    



We also decided to put a little landscaping around the shed recently.  Between the shed and the fence, the grass was having a hard time getting enough sunlight to grow.  So Adam used some landscape timbers to create a little flower bed.  We put down some weed mat, mulch and lots of cute plants that were supposed to do well in the shade, like ferns, coral bells, and columbine.  We never got a chance to see how the plants would do because the pesky rabbits ate almost all of them!  You can see the remains below.  Our new plan is to split some of the giant hostas we have in our front flower beds in the fall and transplant them around the shed.  The rabbits don't seem to bother them, so hopefully they'll have a better fate than our other plants.  


With the window boxes in place, we can officially check "shed" off of our to-do list.  It certainly is the cutest shed I ever did see!  Nicely done, Adam! 


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Saturday, June 16, 2018

My Old Self Would Hate Me Now

As I was pushing Lyla and Archer around Target in one of those giant carts the other day, it dawned on me that I've become the person I used to hate.  When I was struggling with infertility, I couldn't stand to see moms pushing their kids around Target.  Or at the grocery store or walking around the neighborhood or...you get the idea.  It just hurt so freaking much to see other people with what I wanted most but couldn't have.


Don't even get me started with Facebook.  I felt like literally every single one of my friends were announcing their pregnancies or sharing baby pictures.  I had to unfollow friend after friend just so I wouldn't get depressed each time I logged on.

And I didn't want to feel that way.  I didn't want to be feeling jealousy.  I wanted to be happy for my friends and those nice moms at Target.  I just wasn't in a place where I could do that.

But now I'm that lady at Target and that friend on Facebook.  I'm the one unintentionally making other people upset.  And I hate that!  I want to give all those people struggling with infertility a big hug and tell them not to lose hope!  I know that I've inadvertently hurt other people who are struggling with infertility just by being in the same checkout lane at the store or by posting a picture of my babies on Facebook.

Infertility is something that sticks with you.  I still remember how sharp that pain can be.  Being on the other side, being an infertility survivor and IVF success story does take away most of that pain, but I sure remember how it felt.  I'll never forget how much it hurt to lose our first baby, how hard we tried to get pregnant again, and how long it took us to end up with Archer and Lyla.

So I am sorry.  I am sorry to those women who are still working towards becoming moms.  I am sorry the mere presence of me and my babies makes you depressed or angry or jealous.  It's okay if you want to punch me in the face.  It's okay if you walk away without returning my smile.  It's okay if you unfollow me on Facebook.  It's okay to feel what you are feeling.  And I sincerely hope that one day soon you'll get to be the kind of person you one day hated too.


Thursday, June 14, 2018

Ten Months!

Another month flew by!  Lyla and Archer are 10 months old!  That's right, we've hit the double digits.  Just as each month before, I feel like their growth and development has increased exponentially!  They both have picked up so many new skills over this past month.  They can both wave, which is adorable.  They each also know what the word "wave" means, so all I have to do is say the word and they know what to do.  They can both crawl like pros now and are fast!  I find myself running after them if they escape through an open baby gate towards the stairs.  Luckily, they are both quite noisy and enjoy smacking down their hands and knees with great gusto so I always know when they are on the move.  They haven't quite mastered stealth crawling...yet.

(Archer and Lyla didn't want me to get a picture of both of them together on this particular day.  Luckily Nana was able to get a few.  Thanks, Nana!)

  

In addition to crawling, they are both cruising around furniture.  They can walk around the ottoman and the length of the couch, as well as go from the couch to the ottoman.  Their little push walker toy is a breeze for them.  They also both enjoy pulling up and standing on everything- the windowsills, the baby gates, the front door, my legs, in the bathtub, in the swimming pool and on and on.  They are getting trickier for one person to contain!  Walking is on the very near horizon for both of them, which both excites me and terrifies me.  Since Lyla was the first to crawl by a good month, we figured she'd be the first to walk.  But now our money is on Archer.  He seems to have a very strong desire to walk, while Lyla is content to crawl around.


Both are pros at giving very wet kisses, which is adorable and a little bit gross.  I am basically covered in baby slobber by the end of the day.   They will also give each other kisses.  They give each other slobbery goodnight kisses before they go to their respective rooms for bedtime.  I've even seen them lean over and plant a kiss on each other's head or arm when they're playing.  It's so stinking sweet. 


Archer got his first (and hopefully last) black eye this month.  He fell on the edge of the windowsill.  He's pulled himself up and cruised around the windowsill hundreds of times now, but just lost his balance this once.  Oh, well.  It won't be the last bruise we'll deal with!


He's particularly fond of high fives.  He will hold his little hand up with such a hopeful look in his eye.  And when you hit his hand with yours, he smiles and lets out a little laugh.  It's just plain adorable!  Archer is racking up his tooth count- he's up to 8!  He can goble up his meals rather quickly with all those teeth now.  Speaking of mealtimes, he's getting a bit pickier about some foods.  I think it's more of a texture thing.  As soon as he puts hard-boiled eggs or pasta in his mouth, he quickly spits them back out with such a look of disgust.  It kind of makes me want to give him more of these foods.  He also likes to shake his head no and smile like crazy when I ask him to give me a kiss these days.  He thinks it's hysterical.  But then he usually gives me a kiss anyways.  I think he enjoyed my initial shocked face the first time he did it, so he keeps on doing it just to get a reaction out of me.  Or he's just ornery.


Archer still hates to be left alone.  He's okay if Lyla's in the room with him if I leave to go to the bathroom or switch over the laundry.  But if he's alone, he'll immediately start bawling and the tears start flowing.  If he wakes up before Lyla does, I can pretty much plan on him being attached to my hip.  I know some day he'll want me to disappear so I'm trying to just enjoy his company while I can.


Lyla has been waking up in the morning and from her naps as happy as can be.  She chatters to herself and gives me the biggest smile when I go get her from her crib.  She loves to explore and crawl all over the place.  She enjoys crawling up the stairs and darting out of the baby gates when I leave them open.  She enjoys putting all sorts of things in her mouth.  So far I've retrieved the following items out of her mouth while trying to dodge her 5 very sharp teeth: a rollie pollie, flowers, magazine pages, baby wipes, grass, and random pieces of who knows what she's found on the floor.


Lyla's new favorite thing to do is shake her head.  She's not one hundred percent sure what it means, so she's often shaking her head no when I ask if she wants a toy and then grabs for it.  It cracks me up.  I can already tell she's going to give us a run for our money.  As my mom pointed out to me the other day, "You'll be really glad Lyla's such a strong, independent girl when she's 18.  Until then, you're in trouble!" 


Lyla is one of the loudest babies I have ever come across.  She's generally happy, she just likes to make sure everyone knows she's around.  That's why we only go to restaurants that are noisy.  Speaking of restaurants, Lyla has taken the lead for least picky baby.  She has eaten everything we've ever put in front of her.  She didn't even bat an eye when we gave her pickles or peppers.  We'll have to give lemons a go and see what happens.  


I am loving this age!  Lyla and Archer are so much fun!  I love to watch them discover new things and learn new skills.  It's nice that they are becoming more independent and can stay occupied for longer amounts of time.  Things seem like they are getting a bit easier and I am gaining a little more confidence as a mom.  Bring on the next month!